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The TRUTH about the 1st Trimester and the not so sexy sex coach

 

Worried pregnant woman sitting on sofa at home.

 

Those that know me well, know how long and how many prayers have gone into this pregnancy.

More than 3 years ago I was visited by my spirit baby, I felt it’s presence so strongly and began to communicate, connect and welcome the baby. Of course, I thought it meant I was going to be pregnant soon! NOPE.  Actually, the VERY 1st time I felt the child’s presence was in 2012 as I was participating in a spiritual earth shift with many other healers in Boston, USA.

All of a sudden, BOOM, I felt this energy drop into my auric field. Later that day I heard other stories of babies in the spirit realm who visited their mothers before birth. But it was many years later that the pregnancy actually came to fruition. It was confusing for me – until I remembered that ‘time’ in this world, and the spiritual realm are 2 very different things.

So, I had this (mistaken) idea that when I got pregnant I would feel elated and connected and all mother earth like. After all, I’m a spiritual love and intimacy coach, and have prayed so hard for this. Surely – I’ll just ‘know what to do’.

Instead I have been nauseous a lot, feel like I’ve got a hang over and have been extremely tired. My favourite has been wretching at the side of the road at random times, craving cherry coke and lemonade but feeling guilty after being told not to have sugar, and occasionally spending whole days lying down. As I emerge from the first trimester though, things are getting better.

My ‘drive’ to do, well much of anything, has dropped as I surrender into my creative energy being used to create a new human. It’s like my ego is off all my wants and desires, and just focused on the NOW. This in itself is a strange experience as I move from one to two beings, at present.  I am living day to day and it’s hard to focus past that. I feel like my VaVa Voom has gone – which is unusual for me – yet I am very present with my clients in a deep and gentle way, there is less ‘me’ and even more ‘divine moving through me’.

And because I’ve been ill and pregnancy brings up a whole host of stuff in relationship I haven’t been feeling very sexy, and my body is changing quickly.

The not so sexy sex coach. Very humbling, very real, and very much practicing what I preach out here! My sensuality isn’t dead but its way down!!!

And that’s life isn’t it? Different stages of life… pregnancy, caring for a new born, new job stress, caring for an elderly parent, a surprise illness, a sudden death in the family, financial strains and other curveballs of life.

Here’s how I’ve been handling the physical, emotional and hormonal changes.

1. I am growing an actual human. My life force energy is being used on that. I am surrendering to that miracle instead of beating myself up. Though it feels really wierd, as it’s something I haven’t experienced before.

2. I am staying in communication with my partner, who is also freaking out about ‘squashing’ the baby as many men do! We are staying open, honest and affectionate. Communication MUST be done and is essential to get through the next 18 months!! We are being kind + real. After our ‘relationship check in’ yesterday, I noticed an increase of energy between us. As fear and uncertainty clears, eros arises.

3. Where I do have energy I am focusing on the things that make me feel good. Movement, dance, + walking to create aliveness in my body, sometimes my pu&&y starts to wake up from her slumber.

4. I remind myself that everything is cycling and changing. This too shall pass, and I am entering a new phase of my life. I am strongly feeling this change where everything is not just for me now, on a deep level. I am honouring all of it, and also not pretending I know everything.

5. I use my healing and coaching on myself! Can you say PEP TALK!

 

If you are going through some changes and need support, you can book a session or a mentorship with me. Many women contact me saying they find it really difficult to discuss sex with their partner. However – It’s so important that you do, so you can maintain intimacy. Intimacy is not just about sex, it’s about your heart connection too.

Going through changes in your body, life and relationship can feel isolating – but you do not have to be. There is support for you.

My mentorship: https://www.jaydiamond.co.uk/work-with-me#work-with-me

Heart Connection In Relationships Masterclass: https://jaydiamond.podia.com/creating-heart-connection-in-relationship

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